Monday's Musings - Being Thankful Through the Difficulties of Life

by Mary Denman

A couple of weekends ago, I got to go visit my dad. The visit wasn't as long as I could have wanted, but Daddy and I had a good time. And just being around him taught me how to better weather the storm of grief and loss that our family finds ourselves in since we lost our mom and he lost his beloved wife of 60 years in May of 2013. You could say that I learned a life lesson from my dad.

Before we arrived, Daddy called me to tell me he had a map of the US and wanted me to help him mark up all the places he and mom had been. I sat on the floor with a highlighter and he sat looking at an atlas, calling out places they had traveled over all their married years. It was so much fun remembering. 

All the trips to visit us 6 kids who were spread out all over the US. Going to Nova Scotia with one of their grandsons. Flying to Germany and Switzerland. Once to see Hawaii. "We were blessed," dad says.

And that's when it hit me that Daddy knows how to handle the grief of losing Momma. He absolutely misses her, but tempers that by saying how thankful he is that she said, "Yes." By remembering all the trips they took over the years. He looks back on their life with real and genuine thankfulness. 

We also had a good time watching all the birds after I filled the feeders outside the family room window. Daddy put on a program about Italy on the TV since my husband and I had traveled there last April. I would comment on the places we went and take pictures of the birds at the same time. 

We just sat and watched the show for about an hour. And what a special hour it was. I love sitting with my dad. He's going to be 90 in November. He's entitled to sit. And I love being right beside him. 

But his thankfulness is always there. No bitterness at all. Just appreciation for the life he and Momma had. That all of us kids keep coming to visit him since he no longer drives. For mom's steadfast faith in God through her suffering. 

We all miss Momma. There will never be another lady like her in our lives. But she does live on in each of us. We can remember her laughing, planning a beach trip, doing genealogy. 

And when I'm missing her, I can look back at my life with her and be thankful for her unconditional love and support. For all of her encouragement. For the times I sat with her and held her hand when she was weak or tired. Those moments of stillness with her are so precious to me now. 

Mom, I love you. And Daddy, I love you, too. 

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  1. Aww lovely post Mary.. want to go hug my mum and dad now xx

    Thanks for sharing over at Creative Mondays.

    1. That makes me happy Claire! Love on them every chance you get! :)

      Thanks for dropping by!

  2. So sorry for your loss! Glad to see that your Dad is handling his grief really well. Thankfulness is so good and healing to the heart and soul. Your Dad is a great example of someone who knows how to count God's blessings.

    1. Thanks so much. My dad is a great example of thankfulness. :) Thanks for dropping by!

  3. What a gorgeous picture of you and your dad, Mary. Memories are God's gifts when we lose someone. Snapshots of joy and thankfulness to enjoy until we see them again. Mom left me a boatload of snapshots. She was a unique lady - as was your mom. Blessings!

    1. Thanks Sherry. I love seeing my daddy. Guess I'm a daddy's girl. :)

  4. What a beautiful post, Mary. Full of love and warmth, just beautiful.

  5. Oh what a sweet post and precious tribute to your mom. I am so sorry for your loss and your dad's loss. My mom has never stopped missing my dad. He is so alive to her, though he's been gone nearly seven years now. But you are right, reliving those memories and being thankful for them is such a comfort.

  6. What a beautiful and poignant tribute to your mother and father. It's something I haven't had to yet face but my husband has. The memories are precious. And yes, gratitude is the secret. ~Pamela